our true fate

I think that fate completely exists in our lives. Fate is ever present, whether we realize it or not. I know that I sort of talked about this before, but it is something that has been playing out in my life a lot lately, so I wanted to bring it up again. This quote has stuck out to me recently: "They know that they are alone with the road surface, the cold, the wind, the fit of their shoes, their over-all-cardiovascular health - just factors, like the partner in the bed, and not the truth, which is the single body alone in the universe against it's own best time." I feel like this is saying that it is our fate that determines what we are with every single day, whether that be the road, the cold, or the wind, all of these different factors appear for a reason unbeknown to us. Fate has brought you here to my blog. Whether it was that you saw it randomly on my Facebook status, or if you are a regular reader, or if you are someone I barely talk to - you came here because of fate. Fate showed you this link, or showed me to you, and you decided to venture and see what this blog was all about. It is a big connected circle in a way. Here is an example: my roommates for next year, Rachel, Caitlin and Katie. We were all in the same leadership class last spring semester. Fate. I share one of my majors with two of them, and I used to be the in the major that third roommate is. Fate. The four of us never thought about rooming together, but then the two roommates who are my major were in classes with me last semester, and we decided to bring ourselves together to form a group of four roommates. Fate. It is this continuing cycle that never ends.

Sure, you may say that things just happen a certain way, but some things really are fate. You meet people because of fate. Everyone that you know plays a vital role in your life, even if you are not able to see that right now. Sometimes people that you think will never impact you turn out to surprise you in the most influential ways. Take my friendship with Andy for instance. We were in a group for a leadership project spring semester 2009, and we were not very fond of each other at first. I was very unhappy because I was under the impression that he was this kid that slacked off and didn't care about doing anything productive, let alone getting a good grade on this project, whereas I thought I was the complete opposite. (It turns out that we are we similar, but also very different at the same time). We learned that we were, in fact, complete opposites when it came to our personality types, and it was sort of our joke all semester, but, in the end, we ended up working pretty well together and came out with a decent project grade. Because of that project we were forced to be friends, and our friendship has grown from there, and now he is one of my best guy friends. Coincidence? No, fate. Strange things happen like that. Your life would not be the same without some of the people that are in your life. My life without the friends that I have met at college would be a completely different story than it is today. All of them have impacted me in ways that I cannot even explain. I can distinctively see some ways, but others I cannot explain. These certain individuals have helped me grow as a friend, woman and student.

If you really take the time to stop and think about the prominent individuals in your life and how you met them or what your life was like before them, I know that you will either have a difficult time doing so, or you will be able to make a clear distinction as to when they were not in your life. Fate - it really is all around us.

"There is no fate but your own fate."