Thursday, February 11, 2010

anonymous note

As I came back to my room around 6:30 pm after a very busy day, there was a note on my desk from my roommate. To preface this, my roommate, Yen, and I leave each other sticky notes on our desks on an almost daily basis and then put them on our wall, which has become the "Note Wall." Yen put a sticky note on my desk that said "I found this in front of our door" and next to it there was a piece of computer paper folded in half. I opened the paper and began reading:
"You shouldn't want to ever be someone else. You should be your own person. Don't overwhelm yourself. As your friend, I don't want you to aspire to do too much, with the motivation of affiliation. That's what I do feel you are doing. If you can take the time to step back and only do things that you are truly passionate about you will get more out of your college experience, and not burn yourself out. People will still love Kelsey Heiter if she only did three extra curriculars. You don't have to do every single activity in the world. I say this because I love you. I say this anonymously because I don't want you to feel attacked. But please, be yourself. Be Kelsey Heiter, not the Kelsey Heiter who wants everyone to know her."

To whoever wrote this: thank you. Thank you so much. Whoever you are, you understand who I am and I appreciate that. I love to be involved, but I am at the point where I about to get in over my head. You knew that - whoever you are. I am passionate about everything that I do, but I am at the point where if I add in anything else, I am going to lose that passion. I am going to continue doing my homework at 1 am (which is very unlike me by the way) and I am going to continue to be stressed and not myself. This note came at the perfect time. It is a sign. And I appreciate it so much. You, whichever of my friends did this, understand what I have been acting like since the beginning of the semester, which is not something I am proud of, but which is true. I have been stressed everyday, not sleeping normally, and just conerning myself with being heard, being known. As trivial as that sounds, it is true. I know I do not need to prove myself by joining 100 activities, but sometimes I try to.

This is when I know that I have friends who love me for just who I am. You - you made me realize this. Thank you. You will never know how much that note means to me.

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